I have had a lovely time of late indulging and encouraging myself and my friends inner child ;-)
Now I don’t mean eating lots of sweeties, splashing in puddles and watching the muppets Christmas carol, although I have done this too! Ha ha!
I mean, I have lived, learned, questioned and trusted. ;-)
Now I see children , babies, toddlers, chavvers, shavers, teenagers, young people as…………people…..humans.
I see adults as people.......humans.
As children inately, we are born, having a complete and overriding self awareness/being, ( well when we are born we know of nothing else, except being surrounded by a type of warm water)……..we know no fear…….just that we have to survive, search and learn quickly……..that they are hungry!!!
Again.. those labels, the past…….really it makes you think how sullen some people are,………… I was told I was childish. This is a fucking horrible word/label, and is equally horrible when given to a child, teenager or adult. It is a power trip of a word/label….why Betty? Well……….
………..in itself it suggests that being a child is not quite good enough…………and when an adult says this to a 3 year old , they are only just learning the concept of age! Of life and it’s joys and fears, what is joy daddy? What is fear mummy? to differentiate between themselves and other people, some one will have already said they are a little boy or girl and indeed a child! What is a little boy mummy?, what is a little girl daddy?. The frustration anger, and bafflement of being something, when you don’t know what it is ! is completely understandable if you are an empath.......……how very undermining to their self worth that is!…. what the fuck are they going to do!!...........sometimes children start to act like an “adult” and that can be really damaging, especially if the adult is a dangerous individual…sometimes, they carry on being the child they were meant to be and search! hurrah!
What is an adult Betty?..........???
It is also a sneakily obvious thing to a child that this statement also implies an outcome to their actions or behaviour, if they don’t stop doing what they are doing? what will happen Betty? ………well
sometimes adults will teach them this lesson, tell them it’s for their own good, and they will (metaphorically, emotionally, physically) beat it into the child…sometimes, the child will learn to keep still, their head down and their mouth shut, got to survive!!……..sometimes they keep their inner self awareness/being and question the adult or run away! Hurrah!
When an adult says it to a teenager? They have perhaps learned some, if not more, of the fears and joys adults have shown them, they may have learned through experience some of the dangers that lurk in our environment and some of the responsibilities they have to take for themselves. ..they may or may not have learned empathy..responsibilty for other people/things ……The frustration, anger and down right indignance they feel towards the adult who said it is completely understandable if you are an empath, because to the teenager it implies that a teenager is not learned or has no valid opinion of their own, that they are in some way developmentally challenged…….how very undermining to their self worth that is!..what the fuck are they going to do!........ …..and that can be really damaging, especially if the adult is a dangerous individual…………………sometimes they keep their inner confidence child/being and question the adult!! And don’t run away ! hurrah!
What is dangerous Betty?.......???
It is also fairly obvious to a teenager that this statement also implies an outcome to their actions or behaviour, if they don’t stop being doing what they are doing?, what will happen Betty?..........well
sometimes adults will have to teach them that lesson again for their own good and this time (metaphorically, emotionally, physically) they will make it clearer….sometimes, they hide behind clothes and thinking of adults and start resenting ,loathing……….sometimes they look to their inner child and kick against the pricks. Hurrah!
When an adult tells another adult that they are being childish, the adult may perhaps have seen many a more things , fears and joys, they may have built many of their own opinions and views, they may know what scares them and makes them joyous. They may have taken on the responsibilities that are relevant to them and other people/things. Perhaps they have experience and learning of many more things than the other adult! The sadness, rage and disbelief that they feel is completely understandable if you are an empath…..because It implies that the adult has failed at learning , that their opinions are lacking in judgement , that this adult cannot be responsible for themselves or others/things, is developmentally stunted………….how very undermining to their self worth that is!...what the fuck are they going to do….well
What is an individual Betty?....???
It is also patently obvious to the adult, that this statement also implies an outcome to their actions and behaviour. What will this adult do if they don’t stop what they are doing? What further can this adult do to control the adult, what will happen Betty?...well
Sometimes adults will teach them a lesson they will never forget saying it is for their own good ( metaphorically, emotionally, physically) they will make it so clear that really the adult will be in no doubt . and make themselves known as a dangerous individual………..sometimes the adult will be afraid and hide the clothes they once wore, let the adults have their way and live their lives as an automaton. ……….sometimes they gladly seek out their inner child and not just question the adult, but know and say, the way you live is good for you, you have searched, you have learned and you survive, it feeds your hunger but they are wrong for this person.
Maybe being an adult means being an individual?
So when does a child become an adult Betty? well there is no age really but a person will find it hard or never find out who they are with people calling them childish that’s for sure…and it seems to me keeping your inner child , fearlessness, self awareness, and a child like attitude is part of becoming one!!
Now I am on a promise of a box set of every episode of Paddington Bear in a wee suitcase! ..and p’raps I shall watch it round my friends house and we will have peanut butter sandwiches and cherry pop for tea!!
Have a go on the swings my pretties. xxx